I have these two friends who are both in relationships with someone in the Navy. Both of their significant others are deploying for a long period of time. One left a couple of weeks ago, one is leaving soon. Friend 2 told friend one they could be deployment buddies and that she understood how she felt. Friend one then explained to me that this made her mad because friend 1 is married and pregnant and friend 2 is only engaged. Plus, friend 1's husband is going to Afghanistan and friend 2's fiance is going to be on a boat. Really? she's playing the "I have it harder than you game"? This pisses me off. For one, both friend have been in their relationship the same amount of time, it's just one friend rushed to get pregnant and married and one didn't. I don't think this means friend 1 should get an award for having it harder. She chose to be in this situation. And if we're playing that game does this mean that friend 1 is some how more knowledgeable and experienced at being a military spouse than me? Ya know, because I was just my husband's girlfriend and his fiancee when he was deployed those two seven month deployments and he was just on a ship. I mean, we've been together for four years, and he's been out to sea for probably over half that time, but I can't relate because I was never pregnant and married when he deployed.
I've seen other girls do this too, and it's bull shit ladies. We're all in the same boat. I don't care where your significant other deploys or what your relationship is like at the time or how many kids you have, we're all the same. If someone tells me they can understand how I feel, then why should I tell them they can't? This is why I do not like most navy wive.
