It's something Navy wives cry all the time, and I'm tired of it. You're not a single mother, you just sometimes have to raise your child on your own. That doesn't mean you don't still have the moral support of your husband, that doesn't mean he can't still give you advice, and you don't have to still agree on everything. You just have to do all the psychical work. Yes, it's hard, but you're not a single mom.
Then this also goes back to the fact that you chose this! You chose to have a baby, you chose to marry someone in the military. I feel like complaining about it makes it sound like you think you made a mistake. No one should think their child is a mistake.
Third, lots of women do it. You're not special. You're not a martyr. Your life isn't any harder than thousands of other navy wives who raise kids on their own. It's certainly not harder than real single mothers and it's really not that much harder than moms who's husbands are there all the time because the brunt of the baby raising work almost always falls on the mom anyway.
Fourth, a lot of these moms still have help from other people. I mean, the one that inspired this post hasn't spent a single night alone with her child since she was born. That's hardly a single mom. Does she think her husband is going to help out more than her mom or other family members? If she does she's crazy.
No one wants to hear you complain about how hard you think your life is. Maybe you should try spending six months trying to have a baby while reading from other women about how much they hate being a mom. Trust me, that's a lot harder.
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